Hi, I am a 16 year old female, still in High School in grade 11. I have been with a girl for a year and 7 months. It is a very abusive relationship, and it just gets out of hand. We had one breakup a couple months ago, where I just got so fed up that I had to leave her and be with somebody else for a while to make me sane.
I think that I have Manic Depression and I get irritated so often. We argue very often and I get so irritated with her, and she still doesn't stop talking. I think I am going insane ... Not in a teenager way, but really, I am afraid for the both of us. I think i need help.
When I'm away from her I am much happier. I have tried breaking up with her but I am scared that she would do something stupid.
I also have problems with my body because my heart keeps skipping beats. I get really sick out of nowhere and I am also very healthy so it doesn't make any sense. I have been to the doctor's office many times but he says that I am ok. I have also had blood tests and urine tests, and they have all been clear. I have also had ultra sounds on the stomach. I get sore everywhere sometimes, and I am not sure why it happens... Nobody can tell me.
The more someone bickers with me the more I want to rip my hair out. I am very irritable and it is mainly because of my partner.
Is there any way that I could get better with out leaving her again? All of this is mainly because of my partner and I don't think it is just her. I think there is something wrong with me.
Whenever I am sad or depressed I drink and abuse substances. I am just running out of options and every adult that I have spoken to doesn't understand the severity of my problems. My whole life also used to be pretty messed up. Messy divorces, fighting, courts, and law. So I have experienced a lot which has I'm sure affected the way that I act now.
Just please, any advice you can give to me ...
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